Loneliness & connectionWhat actually happens in a men's groupWhat actually happens in a men's group: men sitting in a room saying the true version of how they are, and being listened to without being fixed.Notes from the other side
Honest writing on divorce, loneliness, starting over, and thinking straight when everything lands on you at once - by Marcus Cole, for men finding their feet again.
Loneliness & connectionWhat actually happens in a men's groupWhat actually happens in a men's group: men sitting in a room saying the true version of how they are, and being listened to without being fixed.
Divorce & separationDivorced, and the kids are with her tonightThe kids are with her tonight and the silence is the hardest part. Here's how to handle the empty nights without making them worse, and stay the dad they need.
ReinventionStarting again financially after a divorceThe number you start again on is smaller than the one you had, and that is the deal, not a failure. Here is the honest order of what to face first.
ReinventionCareer change at 50 when you cannot start at the bottomYes, you can change careers at 50 without starting at the bottom. You move sideways rather than down, and you sell the twenty-five years instead of apologising for them.
Divorce & separationThe emotional stages of divorce for menThe emotional stages of divorce for men aren't tidy or in order: shock, anger, the quiet collapse, the slow rebuild. Here's what each one feels like and how to move through it.
Divorce & separationWhy is divorce so hard for men? The honest reasonsDivorce is hard for men because the house, the kids and the whole support network usually go at once. Here are the real structural reasons, and what naming them changes.
Loneliness & connectionHow to ask a mate for help when you never haveYou ask a mate for help by asking for one concrete thing at a named time. Here is the actual wording of the message, and what to do if he does not reply.
Overwhelm & clarityHow to make decisions when you can't think straightSort every choice into reversible and irreversible. Decide the reversible ones fast and roughly, defer the irreversible ones on purpose, and use a rule where you can.