Overwhelm & clarityHow to make decisions when you can't think straightSort every choice into reversible and irreversible. Decide the reversible ones fast and roughly, defer the irreversible ones on purpose, and use a rule where you can.Notes from the other side
Honest writing on divorce, loneliness, starting over, and thinking straight when everything lands on you at once - by Marcus Cole, for men finding their feet again.
Overwhelm & clarityHow to make decisions when you can't think straightSort every choice into reversible and irreversible. Decide the reversible ones fast and roughly, defer the irreversible ones on purpose, and use a rule where you can.
Starting overGrey Divorce: Starting Over After 50Grey divorce starting over after 50 is its own thing: split retirement, grown kids, dating later, identity after decades married. A steady, practical look.
Loneliness & connectionWhy adult friendship is so hard for menAdult friendship is hard for men because the structures that made friends for us are gone. Here is the real reason, and the small move that rebuilds it.
Overwhelm & clarityThe mental load of a life being re-decidedWhen a life is being re-decided, too many open decisions pile up at once. The fix is not thinking harder; it is getting them out of your head and onto a page.
Digital security in divorceHow to Securely Share Documents With Your SolicitorHow to securely share documents with your solicitor during divorce: use secure portals, encrypted PDFs, and expiring links, and avoid email mistakes that leak.
Loneliness & connectionWhy Men Go Quiet After DivorceWhy men go quiet after divorce isn't coldness - it's shame, no practice talking, and a shrinking circle. Here's what's really going on, and what helps.
Digital security in divorceIs my ex still in my accounts? How to check and lock them outIf you shared a life, assume your ex still has access until you prove otherwise. Here is how to check your accounts and lock them out, one at a time.
Starting overStarting Over After Divorce at 40Starting over after divorce at 40 feels impossible at first. A plain, been-there guide to rebuilding money, kids, dating, and identity, with real data.